How to love yourself : 3 ingredients to make the self love recipe

“Loving others comes after loving yourself, it’s a stupid thing to switch the order”. There was no better moment for me to hear this. This phrase was in a k-drama called the legend of the blue sea (Is there anyone who's fan of Lee Min Ho 👀👀).

At the first sight, it looks egoist, egocentric or narcissist. But if you take another look, it simply means “you can’t give a penny if you’re broke”. The same goes for love. You can’t love others if you lack self-love.

Taking care of others, being good to people, buying gifts to our loved ones are some of the countless lessons we have learned when growing up from family, school and society. But, don’t you really think that there is something wrong? You know we can’t go to the elementary school without being at the kindergarten.

Can you remember the last friendship you screwed up or the last partner you’ve broke up with? I’m sure the problem was you focusing on the other person while you should focus on yourself. So, I’m listing here the 3 essentials you need to make “the love yourself formula” :

1 Be conscious about its importance

It’s not something we can skip or put off. If we want to have good and stable relation with ourselves and then others, we have to acknowledge the importance of this element in finding our happiness. The lack of self-love can deprive you of happy moments and great people.

When you feel insecure, you’ll use manipulation or oppression to be loved while it can come naturally. So to maintain good connections with people you love, respect and need, you should work on yourself.

2 Give it to me I’m worth it… baby I’m worth it….

Every second, word or penny you invest in yourself isn’t a waste. You are the most valuable investment. So, when you follow a weight loss program or a belly fat challenge and you don’t continue or you don’t get the results you’ve been looking for, don’t think of it as a waste of time or energy, it was just an experience to evaluate your patience, resistance and perseverance.

And to remind you babe you have just one life, so don’t wait for others to give you love, affection or even gifts, do it yourself.

Many times, I wanted to learn how to dance, to go to a psychologist, to take care of my hair but I put all of these things back due to a contest, an exam, a project… I had prioritized studies over myself; but did the clock waited for me? Did it stop until I got the job done?

My life didn’t stop it got worse because the issue that could have been solved in one day, one week or some months became a complicated problem. The only reason is that I thought I wasn’t worth it and that I can do it later, but that later doesn’t come sometimes.

3 Accept yourself

Being able to look at my downfalls, imperfections and pain points strait forward, being able to forgive myself, the mistakes I’ve done and the relations I’ve messed up wasn’t an easy task. To recognize the other YOU, the worst version of YOU is crucial to love yourself. If you don’t face it, accept it and live with it, you can’t go forward.

Don’t forget that we are human beings, we’re bound to mistakes and we all have that bad sassy side of us hahaha. Instead, we have to see the whole picture; we do also have the other good side with good characters. So, let’s Stop overestimating our flaws and Stop blaming ourselves over something in the past.

To love yourself doesn’t mean to think only about yourself, to act only according to your own interests. It’s simply to start from yourself so you can spread love and pink vibes to your loved ones.

Think of it as a mobile phone that needs to be charged regularly in order to function normally. Love is a cycle and it’s up to you to decide : Virtuous or Vicious.

Tell me in the comments below what did you choose ?